If this post had a soundtrack it would be I don’t know why/I love you like I do/I don’t know why, I just doooooo. Old song. That’s OK, I’m an old bat. That was the sort of song that Tony Bennett and Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra used to sing when singers wore tuxedos accessorized with a highball glass and a cigarette. In my adolescence I thought that sort of thing was very romantic, and I could hardly wait until I grew up and could swan about in chiffon and satin, a glamorpuss in strappy high heeled dancing shoes.
Needless to say, my life took a different turn. I have traded cocktail dresses for skyscapes, and replaced my dancing shoes with YakTrax.
This week, in fact, I need the snowshoes. I got into a lot of trouble trying to follow the Duo over this snowbank down on the beach.
They disappeared, and I sank up to my knees and stuck there. It crossed my mind to take a photo for you, just to show you how well my new boots were working, but I thought better of it. I put the camera away and dug myself out. When I was a dreamy adolescent I would have sat down and cried in despair until someone came to pull me out.
So how do we account for the shift in worldview? I think it may have something to do with this. Half a century ago this very day we were living in Washington, D.C. It was a cold and snowy day, which explains why I was at home with a box of Kleenex watching the whole thing on television rather than down there on the Mall in person. The wind whipped around, and the young President’s hair blew in his eyes as he spoke. Let the word go forth from this time and place, to friend and foe alike, that the torch has been passed to a new generation of Americans — born in this century, tempered by war, disciplined by a hard and bitter peace, proud of our ancient heritage — and unwilling to witness or permit the slow undoing of those human rights to which this nation has always been committed, and to which we are committed today at home and around the world.
It was entirely inspirational. The glamor was still there of course. Even if you are young enough to be my grandchild, which a depressing number of you are, you know who Jackie was. The Kennedys put stars in our eyes, and at the same time, called us to be our best and truest selves. I know, I know, there are all sorts of reasons to challenge that vision. But nothing will ever diminish the gift of that particular time and place. I still wanted–and got–the fancy prom dress and the silver dancing shoes. But I had begun to think about their relative importance in the grand scheme of things.
All the people who’ve lived on this patch of ground before me had their own dreams and found their own strengths when they needed them. Lots of them took themselves Away to earn a living or just to see what was on the other side of the drumlins. A surprising number of them are buried up there on the ridge overlooking Torch Lake.
A few years ago I interviewed Pastor Janie Beasley for a newspaper profile. She told me she was on the roster of chaplains over at Mortensen’s Funeral Home in Central Lake. I mulled that one over. Why, I wanted to know, would someone want to be buried in a place where they had no family ties left, where if they wanted a minister to conduct the funeral, the family would have to choose a stranger from a roster?
They’re going home, she said. And I could see it. I could see her vision, and I could see the land, the ground we belong to far more than it will ever belong to us.
And now Dale Reedy has plowed me out. Time to head out and about on my rounds. I don’t know why/I love you like I do/I don’t know why, I just doooooo . . .
P.j. grath
January 20, 2011
So many things come to mind as I read this post. First, friends last night made an indeterminate loan to me of a pair of snowshoes! I’m so excited! Then, you were in Washington during Kennedy’s inauguration? Unforgettable! Then, “they’re going home.” One of the pillars of the Northport community died the other day, and while it’s impossible to imagine her no longer here, she will remain here forever, too. Thank you, Gerry.
Gerry
January 20, 2011
Snowshoes were a wonderful invention. Oh, the places you’ll go!
We lived in Washington–actually in Bethesda, the adjacent suburb–for the entire Kennedy administration. It was an astonishing experience for a kid from the northwoods. But as my Aunt Jimmie always says, “You can take the girl out of the woods but you can’t take the woods out of the girl!”
We’re all gonna be here forever one way or another, aren’t we! All these indestructible little particles of energy, going on and on.
Nye
January 20, 2011
It looks very cold but sure is beautiful. Amazing what the photobloggers have to do to get that shot. 🙂
We’re living in a different world now, who would have thought that people would wed at the funeral home.
Gerry
January 21, 2011
It is, and beautiful too. I see that I have been unclear. People do not come back here to be wed at the funeral home. They have their remains brought back here for a funeral at the funeral home, followed by a burial at Lakeview or Southern. I must hire an editor.
Glo
January 21, 2011
I’m glad to know you were able to extricate yourself from the depths of snow on that walk! Goodness, you do have a lot! We must count ourselves lucky over here on the west coast when it is a rainy day! (We have had snow, though, twice this winter.)
You have such a wonderful writing style, I was caught up in your thoughts, remembrances and images of those days, which I remember well.
Thanks, also, for stopping by my blog and commenting 🙂 Much appreciated.
Gerry
January 21, 2011
Well I’m glad to hear something around here is stylish! I did enjoy stopping by Porcelain Rose to read your tribute to Mrs. Uhdd’s wall-walkers. My menagerie is a handful, but hers is much more colorful. Must be the chicken.
Fee
January 21, 2011
I wasn’t born (sorry!) when JFK was inaugurated (or when he was shot), but I do know who Jackie was. Such iconic images live long beyond the mortal body.
As to coming home, a few years ago, my friend’s dad died out in Spain, where they’d retired to. The cost of flying home the body was beyond her mother’s means, so he was cremated there and his ashes brought back home as hand luggage. His favourite place in Edinburgh was Arthur’s Seat, so the family scattered the ashes there on his birthday. Edinburgh’s perennial windy-ness meant that the ashes were scattered a little further than planned, and the mood was rather spoiled when the family retriever thought something had been thrown that she should be retrieving … mind you, he was the sort of chap who’d have laughed uproariously at the whole thing!
Gerry
January 21, 2011
You are forgiven for being impossibly young. No wonder you can still manage those high-heeled boots. I think your friend’s family had the very best kind of memorial. Surely coming home must include the retriever.
Karma
January 21, 2011
Not young enough to be your grandchild, Gerry! Daughter – I suppose so; my mom was 11 years old when Kennedy was elected.
Thanks for the thought-provoking piece about how far -and not so far- this nation has come in 50 years.
I’d love to see some pictures of you in your dancing shoes!
Gerry
January 21, 2011
Sigh. Wait, wait, does that mean those great kids are virtual Associate Granddaughters? Cool! (Katherine and I have decided that we still say cool. Lamentable, but there you go.)
I do not know if there are any pictures of me in my dancing shoes. They were silver, with four-inch heels. Oh boy. My dad reads this blog. If any evidence exists, he would be just the one to have it squirreled away somewhere. I live in fear that he will start his own blog. 😉
Anna
January 21, 2011
Beautiful captures, and deep, deep snow…. and cold! I remember those songs. 🙂 Croon loves songs….
Gerry
January 21, 2011
Thanks, Anna. I don’t know why/I love ’em like I do . . .
flandrumhill
January 21, 2011
I haven’t used my snowshoes in years. There just hasn’t been enough snow to merit my strapping them on.
I heard Kennedy’s speech this morning on CNN. Yes it was inspiring and not just to Americans.
Gerry
January 21, 2011
Even when we don’t get much snow the wind blows it into drifts. Of course, mostly we get the snow and the wind. One way and another, I make good use of the snowshoes. Rob the Firefighter gave them to me. He made sure they had some serious bearclaws on them to keep me from knocking myself out on the ice.
It’s good to hear that Canadians share the inspiration. It was a most wonderful time to be young and full of hope.