Moms and the inexplicable choices we make

Posted on May 10, 2009

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A pair of robins have built a messy nest on top of the garage floodlights at the Writing Studio and Bait Shop.  The floodlights do not work, as ice dams wrecked the fixture and replacing it has turned out to be more of a project than I thought.  I noticed the mess hanging there and thought Huh, I wonder how all that dried grass managed to get caught up there.  I started to pull it down when I realized that it was attached to a nest under construction. 

I’ve been watching developments, and I know that Mama Robin has been sitting on the nest.  She flies off in a panic whenever I get too close, so I can’t show you her portrait peering over the edge, but here’s the nest.

Robin nest

Mr. and Mrs. Robin checked out the neighborhood before they moved in.  They perched on the deck and watched me working at my desk.  Surely they noticed the resident cat and the resident dogs, but they must have decided that the chosen location was relatively secure, which is possibly the best a robin can hope for.

Mom and Dad Robin

So what we have is a messy nest on top of non-working lights on a decrepit garage, all of it built on the hope of benevolence.  Dysfunction on top of dysfunction.  I will do the best I can to provide the benevolence.  I am put in mind of the duck who made her nest on the ground next to Earl and Joanne Mandel’s front door.  What was she thinking?  I suppose that Earl and Joanne and all their friends would wish her well, and in this she was not disappointed.

Maybe it’s true of all moms.  We bring children into an uncertain universe in the hope that somehow it will all work out.  We do the best we can, build messy or tidy nests, raise our offspring and push them out to try their wings.  And love them. We love them no matter what.  Which, in the case of Rob the Firefighter, turns out to be very easy to do.  The loving part.  Not the raising part.  Don’t get me started.

I thought you should have something pretty for Mother’s Day, so here is a tiny lavendar wildflower that is getting ready to bloom in patches in the woods.  I have no idea what its name is, but I think it’s brave and persistent. 

Tiny lavendar flowers

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